Unbalance and misalignment
Feeling unbalanced isn't always the root problem. In fact, things we are passionate about will invariably unbalance our lives whether it's falling in love, standing up for ourselves, being in flow, landing the dream job, or raising a child. What this ought to be about, however, is alignment - the persistent practice of walking the narrow path with our best selves leading the way.
That is a much more interesting conversation.
To be steadfast - loyal to steadiness and firm with resolve - is to sit with ourselves both in our vitality and our dullness, when we experience ourselves as less than our "ideal." This is maitri, the Sanskrit word for the complete acceptance of who we are. Perhaps one of the most challenging tasks is for us to simply stay with everything that arises. Stay with our emotional discomforts, our restlessness, our doubting-minds, our aching necks and hearts. Our task is to stay loyal to ourselves without always running away to seek comfort in fantasies, memories, and the illusion of control and security.
Cultivating emotional intelligence can help deepen our relationship to ourselves and others, guide us in making more focused decisions, and help with achieving a sense of clarity when faced with the complexities of life.
As kids, few of us were taught how to properly integrate our emotions or even identify what they are. This can often mean that as adults, we are often left feeling confused and disoriented when faced with emotions we don't know how to process.
Hear about Steven's experience
1: Who is interested?
These are one-on-one sessions. I integrate the humanities with technology, neuroscience, and and Jungian psychology to enhance our understanding of the self. I recommend meeting weekly for at least 50 min sessions.
These are sessions designed for romantic couples or business "couples" (e.g. company co-founders). My work draws from attachment theory, somatic therapy, and drama therapy. I recommend meeting weekly for at least 75 min sessions.
I offer consultation for companies looking to enhance culture, boost purpose, and wish to promote social impact. Together we will create a bespoke curriculum tailored to the specific needs of your organization.
2: What are the issues?
Marriage and dating stressors, communication skills, coping with differences, infidelity, and cultural differences
Shyness, social anxiety, difficulty forming and/or maintaining relationships, learning to be assertive, emotion regulation, empathy
Career and Work Challenges
Meaningful and purposeful work, short and long-term career goals, employment seeking, career transitions
Clarifying personal values and beliefs, establishing short- and long-term goals during significant life transitions
Self-consciousness, self-esteem issues, and food- and body-related stressors
Existential and Spiritual Guidance
Spiritual and higher consciousness journey work and integration of psychedelic experiences
3: How deep of a dive?
Ready to dive into some of the surface issues that affect day to day life. Have a desire to learn basic meditation and mindfulness skills to cultivate presence. Prepare to be in weekly sessions for at least 3 months.
Ready to take a deeper plunge into the waters that is your consciousness and explore your childhood to find where patterns originated. Prepare to be in weekly sessions for at least 6 months.
In it to win it, nothing to lose, everything to gain. Ready to take a psychedelic plunge into the depths of your psyche, exploring every nook with the curiosity of a child. Prepare to be in weekly sessions with me for at least 1 year.
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Goodness of Fit
It's important to be honest with ourselves and others about the limitations of our offerings, particularly in EQ work where client-coach goodness of fit significantly influences the desired impact.
We may not be the best match if ...
... you are looking for a licensed clinician who practices psychotherapy or approaches mental health as defined by the American Psychiatric Association
... you require insurance/billing forms (e.g. CMS 1500)
... you have active psychosis or suicidality
... you are an active duty soldier in the military
I am happy to make referrals to professionals who do practice within these parameters - contact me.