EQ consists of a few core principles
Our capacity to recognize emotional states within ourselves and others is fundament to the navigation of interpersonal relationships. This may seem obvious. We may believe we are already quite adept at it but it is often a more difficult endeavor than it appears. So much of our cognitions, emotions, idiosyncratic patterns, and spiritual states exist on an unconscious level. Our work together in sessions will be to uncover our unconscious truths with as much accuracy and compassion as possible.
Becoming conscious beings will likely involve an exploration of what lies at the root of how we exist in the world. We may see ourselves as lone trees but under the earth lies a beautifully complex web of historical roots. A tapestry woven not only of our own roots but those of our ancestors, parents, communities, and loved ones. They have been weaving since our birth. Our behaviors, thoughts, emotions all contain deep memory, deep wounds, deep joy, rooted in experiences from our past.
This refers to our capacity to self-soothe. As children we quickly learn what happens when we express distress. Sometimes we are soothed, sometimes not at all, and other times a confusing mix of both. As we grow, we are sometimes confronted with the realization that we actually do not have the skills to learn how to soothe ourselves in kind and loving ways, especially when those around us aren't able to help us through dysregulating life experiences. Emotion regulation is not a suppression of feelings but rather an honoring of our own emotions as well as the emotions of others.
Our self-regenerative intelligence - inherent in all of us - is often viewed as less possible and less effectual than the restoration provided by others. We see this play out often in romantic pursuits where we ponder “How do I want to be loved?” perhaps more naturally and instinctively than the question “How can I love better?” We may not always believe in our self-regenerative abilities and this is understandable as we are often told healing and wellness lies outside of us, something to obtain rather than uncover. A teacher of mine once said healers don’t do the healing, they simply help remove the obstacles to healing, giving our bodies and minds a chance to come together in wholeness.